First of all, you need to be clear with yourself on what kind of person you are looking for. Try to imagine him/her and the qualities he/she should have. It should involve character as well as beauty.

This "shopping list" should include 5-10 points. Don’t try to make a list with more attributes than that  because that way  you will never find your partner because such a person may never exist or might be very few of them to reach.

 For example: Your chances of finding a smart, attractive, tall, funny partner are higher then finding a smart, attractive, tall, warm, financially stable, non smoking, blue eyed, lover of Italian food partner

As you do that, try to include THE most important characters - Those that you cannot compromise on. You might compromise on the "non smoking" issue and maybe the "warm" but not about the financially stable and the attractive.

Another thing you need to take in consideration is reality. Try to look at it with an objective approach - What are my chances of meeting this person and would this person like to be with me? For example - if you are the short, shy chubby type and you dream about the tall, party animal type it might just be that the person will not be interested in you.

While you are using the objective approach, DO NOT fall into the "who will want me as I am" trap. Even though, you are the "homely", quiet, shy type there are many of them out there just like you who would love to be with you.

The next trap that you need to be aware of - Try not to go out there and find that partner with all those characters that we would like them to have thinking that "you will get them "from him/her!

Why is that? That is because no one can solve your problems but you. Actually, the situation can become so bad, that as you start arguing on different things because your partner would like to change you to be just as he/she is , you will  end up frustrating yourself .

Opposite sides will complete each other and different types will attract each other? I believe in that, but it is all a question of proportions.

If the differences are small the two parts might complete each other BUT if the differences are too big, it will end up in a broken relationship. For example, you are quite and aren’t saying a word and your partner is the one who keeps on shouting at you for every little reason, the gap will get bigger and bigger until you put an end to it.  .

Now, after you have a "check list" ready, it is time for ACTION.

You cannot sit at home and wait for prince/princess charming to just fall from the sky for you.

Go out, meet new people, join different social groups, go to parties or try to do it the modern way. And, I am sure, you will get the person you want.

Reference --Yair Czitrom